Grace and truth are relational. Grace and truth come from God our Father and His Son, our Savior, Lord and King, building us together in close relationships in Christ by the Holy Spirit.
The grace of God
“The higher Christian signification, based on the emphasis of freeness in the gift or favor, and, as commonly in New Testament, denoting the free, spontaneous, absolute loving-kindness of God toward men, and so contrasted with debt, law, works, sin.” VWS
Jesus came, full of grace and truth
14 The Word became flesh and lived among us. We saw his glory, such glory as of the only born† Son of the Father, full of grace and truth. 15 Yochanan testified about him. He cried out, saying, “This was he of whom I said, ‘He who comes after me has surpassed me, for he was before me.’ ” 16 From his fullness we all received grace upon grace. 17 For the Torah was given through Moses. Grace and truth were realized through Yeshua the Messiah.‡ 18 No one has seen God at any time. The only born§ Son,** who is in the bosom of the Father, has declared him. John 1:14-17
The words of grace and truth Jesus spoke are brought to life in us by the Holy Spirit.
But Yeshua knowing in himself that his disciples murmured at this, said to them, “Does this cause you to stumble? Then what if you would see the Son of Man ascending to where he was before? It is the spirit who gives life. The flesh profits nothing. The words that I speak to you are spirit, and are life. John 6:61-63 (Ps 51:11; Jn 1:33; Ac 2:4; Rm 8:9-11; Gl 5:25; Titus 3:3-8; Rev 3:19-22)
Grace permeates our our new life in Christ by the Holy Spirit helping us be life giving fruit bearers. We convey this fruit by our words and actions. Grace is motivated by the love God pours into our hearts by the Spirit (Ro 5:1-5) and the kingdom of God is in the Spirit (Ro 14:17). The Holy Spirit works mightily within us helps us be fruitful and productive in the kingdom of God. It is the Spirit that gives life.
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, 23 gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law. 24 Those who belong to Messiah have crucified the flesh with its passions and lusts.
25 If we live by the Spirit, let’s also walk by the Spirit. 26 Let’s not become conceited, provoking one another, and envying one another. Galatians 5:22-26
Grace and gracefulness build relationships when we put our love into action and make it real.
This is how we learned what love is: He gave His life for us. We should give our lives for our fellow Christians. If anyone has this world’s goods and sees his fellow Christian is in need but shuts his heart against him, how can he still be loving God? Children, let us not love only in words or in talk, but let us put our love into action and make it real. 1 John 3:16-18 AAT
In that context, Paul wrote to the Ephesians and to us to give grace to one another.
15 but speaking truth in love, we may grow up in all things into him who is the head, Messiah,16 from whom all the body, being fitted and knit together through that which every joint supplies, according to the working in measure of each individual part, makes the body increase to the building up of itself in love. …
29 Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building others up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear. 30 Don’t grieve the Holy Spirit of God, in whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. 32 And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Messiah forgave you. Ephesians 4:15-16, 29-32
Unless otherwise noted, all Scripture quoted is from the WMB