In the pew or with one another was a choice most did not even think about until about 300 years after Messiah Jesus ascended into heaven. Church evolved from the eating together way to our clergy over laity way with us sitting in the sitting in the pew instead of sharing our lives in Messiah with one another. That put a big damper on one another ministry.
The contrast to participation in one another ministry is huge.
In the church Messiah Jesus builds, each one of us is equipped for the work of ministry.
11And He Himself gave some to be apostles, some prophets, some evangelists, and some pastors and teachers, 12for the equipping of the saints for the work of ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ, 13till we all come to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a perfect man, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ; 14that we should no longer be children, tossed to and fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, in the cunning craftiness of deceitful plotting, 15but, speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head—Christ— 16from whom the whole body, joined and knit together by what every joint supplies, according to the effective working by which every part does its share, causes growth of the body for the edifying of itself in love. Ephesians 4:11-16 NKJ
How is it then, brethren (brothers and sisters)? Whenever you come together, each of you has a psalm, has a teaching, has a tongue, has a revelation, has an interpretation. Let all things be done for edification. 1 Corinthians 14:26 NKJ
How the clergy over laity mode became entrenched in the Church.
In 313 AD, the Roman Emperor Constantine declared all Roman citizens Christian. He soon provided the existing clergy with temples as extravagant as those of the heathens, dressed clergy in royal vestments and backed them with the sword of Rome. Thus the clergy laity class distinction became entrenched and bound Christians to the pew. That catastrophe evolved into the dark ages until the Protestant Reformation partially reversed it.
Maintaining current church customs, we can only listen to clergy, pray and worship shoulder to shoulder looking at the back of the heads of the people in front of us, silently agree or disagree with the sermon and put money in the collection plate. The word pew does not occur in the Bible, “pulpit” only occurs once (Neh 8:4). Clergy and laity do not occur at all. Yet, the vast majority of Christians come together with that limited interaction in lieu of one another ministry.
In order for the Church Messiah Jesus is building to to thrive, there must be participation.
Hindered with current church customs, at least 95% of our one another ministry occurs outside of a pew. If you are limited to attending a pew bound Church, you can still communicate and interact with your family, brothers and sisters in Messiah and unbelievers you know. That is where each individual part of the body of Christ is unhindered in doing its job.
The best setting for face to face, one another, participation is in our homes. Enjoy togetherness with family and minister to one another—speak with one another, hug one another, laugh with one another, cry with one another, pray for one another, read the Bible together, have table fellowship with one another around the Lord’s Table, speak highly of our Father, His son Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit with one another … Extend family togetherness to fellow saints in your homes.
Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Hebrews 12:1-2 Cf. Heb 11
We are to spend our earthly lives in anticipation of life in the world to come.
1 Peter 4:1 Since, then, Christ has suffered in the flesh, you also must arm yourselves with a determination to do the same—because he who has suffered in the flesh has done with sin—2 that in future you may spend the rest of your earthly lives, governed not by human passions, but by the will of God. 3 For you have given time enough in the past to the doing of the things which the Gentiles delight in—pursuing, as you did, a course of habitual licence, debauchery, hard drinking, noisy revelry, drunkenness and unholy image-worship.
4 At this they are astonished—that you do not run into the same excess of profligacy as they do; and they speak abusively of you. 5 But they will have to give account to Him who stands ready to pronounce judgement on the living and the dead. 6 For it is with this end in view that the Good News was proclaimed even to some who were dead, that they may be judged, as all mankind will be judged, in the body, but may be living a godly life in the spirit.
7 But the end of all things is now close at hand: therefore be sober-minded and temperate, so that you may give yourselves to prayer. 8 Above all continue to love one another fervently, for love throws a veil over a multitude of faults. 9 Extend ungrudging hospitality towards one another.
10 Whatever be the gifts which each has received, you must use them for one another’s benefit, as good stewards of God’s many-sided kindness. 11 If any one preaches, let it be as uttering God’s truth; if any one renders a service to others, let it be in the strength which God supplies; so that in everything glory may be given to God in the name of Jesus Christ, to whom belong the glory and the might to the Ages of the Ages. Amen.
12 Dear friends, do not be surprised at finding that that scorching flame of persecution is raging among you to put you to the test—as though some surprising thing were accidentally happening to you. 13 On the contrary, in the degree that you share in the sufferings of the Christ, rejoice, so that at the unveiling of His glory you may also rejoice with triumphant gladness.
14 You are to be envied, if you are being reproached for bearing the name of Christ; for in that case the Spirit of glory—even the Spirit of God—is resting upon you. 15 But let not one of you suffer as a murderer or a thief or an evil-doer, or as a spy upon other people’s business. 16 If, however, any one suffers because he is a Christian, let him not be ashamed, but let him glorify God for being permitted to bear that name. 17 For the time has come for judgement to begin, and to begin at the house of God; and if it begins with us, what will be the end of those who reject God’s Good News? 18 And if it is difficult even for a righteous man to be saved, what will become of irreligious men and sinners?
19 Therefore also, let those who are suffering in accordance with the will of God entrust their souls in well-doing to a faithful Creator. 1 Peter 4:1-19 WNT